Week 2: Patience
Hey everybody! Compassion Collective, it’s week two and this week’s focus is going to be patience.
Speaking of patience, I want to thank all of you who have signed up, I am floored by how many have! And for being patient as the first week’s video was about a week late … so my thank you to you for being patient and not being upset with me.
So what does patience mean? And I need to use my glasses, sorry guys, I’m just old. OK. Patience, the definition, is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble or suffering without getting angry or upset. Hmmm, that’s the key. So me, I have to tell you, I am horrible at patience. I have none! I have to constantly ask the Lord to grant me the grace of patience because it’s just not in my nature. I think all of us struggle with that.
So here’s the deal.
I’m going through not only a professional spiritual transformation, but I’m also going through a personal life transformation. My entire world is different than what it was eight months ago, for example. While I was going through this process of trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up and what I want to do – I wanted it done in a month. I got 30 days. I want to know my IT job, I want to know this, I want to know that, and you know what? It doesn’t work that way, especially when you’re going through major transformation or when you’re learning something new or when you’re teaching something to someone that’s new.
Let’s say you’re mentoring someone and they haven’t done this before or your children are learning a new sport and you just want them to get it now, but they’re learning and they’re taking some time and you have to have patience with that. When you’re standing in that grocery line and that guy just takes forever to put his food up on that belt and you got to get moving. You need to exhibit some patience. When you’re sitting in that traffic, just freaking out because you’re going to be late for that meeting. It’s out of your control, so take that opportunity to pull yourself together, maybe actually practice what it is that you need for that meeting, if you have a presentation or something. You need patience with your co-workers, with your husband, with your kids, with your dogs, with everything around you.
That is what I want you to focus on this week. Remember that you should not be getting angry about things that you cannot control. The real test here is how you react to all the stuff that comes at you. So let’s continue to remember compassion from the first week, right – and patience – they go hand in hand. That’s why it is the second topic, so be compassionate towards others, be patient with others and yourself.
This past weekend I recorded my audiobook. I was underneath a comforter in this makeshift kind of, you know, recording studio if you will, for 10 hours on Saturday. I have to re-record it. I don’t like it. I have to re-record it. You think I’m real happy about that? Do I have another 10 hours to “waste” under the comforter redoing this? No. But I have to love myself. I’ve never recorded a book before, so I’m learning and that takes patience. All of us should be learning new things and let’s be patient again, with ourselves and with others, and always with the overarching component of compassion.
Good luck this week—share with me how you’re doing. I will share with you throughout the week what things are challenging me from the patience side of the house and have a very blessed day!